Just this past week, I attended a leadership training class for women. It was a 3 day class packed with tons of information, tools, and evaluations to learn more about yourself and your style of leadership. One of the exercises based on the topic of work/life balance, included filling in a table on all the roles that you play in life and a corresponding percentage of your time that’s spent in that role (obviously totaling up to 100%).
Once we completed filling in the percentages of how it is TODAY, we then filled in where we would actually like the percentage TO BE. So naturally my list of roles included.. being a mom, wife, sister, daughter, friend, manager, leader, and an associate. I documented areas where I would like to increase my time as a wife, as a mother, and as a leader. Reducing time from others and/or even some of the time out between roles.
The instructor then had us work with our group and discuss what we wrote down. After listening to all the other ladies read their roles and discuss what they wanted to do to change their percentages. I had a huge epiphany… I didn’t have a “ROLE” dedicated to ME! The funny part was that none of the other women in my group did either.
So it made me realize.. how often when life gets crazy or when juggling all the roles gets hectic that we put our needs and “ME” time behind everything else. I know that I personally put everyone else’s needs ahead of my own. As a wife and mother.. I feel like this is very common. When our schedule gets hectic.. working out or spending time on my hobbies is the first thing to get cut. So why is that? Why do we put ourselves last? Isn’t my physical and mental health just as important as taking care of my family or my home?
YES of course it is… but I think for most of us at some point we become selfless and put all other’s needs ahead of ourselves. We have to fight the never-ending battle and become better time managers and make sure to schedule the time to give back to ourselves whether it’s physically, mentally, or emotionally.
By finding ways to better manage the time we have, simplifying our lives, and focusing on what’s actually important to us. We SHOULD be able to schedule time to do the things we enjoy doing for some quality ME time. Whether it’s yoga, reading, gardening, walking, or kick boxing! It’s time that we’ve earned and deserve to give ourselves and it’s a great way to reduce stress and allow us to re-energize for all those other roles that we juggle!
– Mommy H.
(5% Me Time)